Nowadays, our life is full of challenges and it is very important to keep a positive attitude towards everything for the betterment of our life. But the thing is, not everyone knows the secret of being positive. We live in a society where people expect us to do even those things that we don’t want to, and the harsh reality is most of the time we just go with the flow and hurt ourselves which can make us sad or depressed. But we should learn how to think and be positive in any kind of situation, so we could live a happy life.
To know the secret of being positive better, first, we have to know about how psychology works. So, psychology is a fundamental behaviour of a person. This means, how the person behaves at a particular event or time. And if you want to be positive you need to understand the psychology of being positive. Positivity is a state of mind, that influences your life greatly. It is characterized by strong intuition and optimistic emotion. Having a positive mindset and being positive are two different things.
Now the question is, How to stay positive in every situation? So to be positive, one should be mentally prepared for this. There are a lot of ways that either make you positive or at least drag you out from the negativity zone. Here we are mentioning some of those crucial ways to make you a positive minded person:
You must be surprised but it’s true. The type of food that we eat affects our lives both scientifically(mentally, physically), and spiritually. But here we will about the scientific effects of healthy food. Our Brain requires omega-3-fatty acids, flavonoids, vitamins, etc in order to stay healthy. Food like berries and dark chocolate contains flavonoids and cocoa respectively, which are antioxidants and helps to reduce inflammation and stress. Nuts and whole-grain foods like barley, brown rice, and the bread also help in calming our brain. So if our brain is calm and working properly, we can focus on positive thoughts easily.
Exercise, Yoga, and Meditation
In a world where we hear more traffic sounds and noise than our own voice. Doing yoga, and meditation helps a lot in being positive by relieving our brain from unwanted stress and chaos. Whereas, exercise relaxes our muscles and also improves blood flow in our body so the brain could easily get the proper oxygen supply. This leads to a healthy and active brain for positive thinking.
Staying with positive people
By staying and talking with positive-minded people, you’ll get to know many new things in life that will nourish the positive aspect of your life. Surrounding yourself with positive people will help you grow as an individual.
Changing our perspective
As human beings we observe things. But we have the tendency of looking at everything from our own perspective and most of the time, we initially make a negative perspective. But you need to understand the process of observation, this way you can see things positively. Just by doing this, you’ll see the world very differently. Because someone has said that, “Your eyes will see what you have in your brain, and your brain will see what you want to see”.
That’s not it, the following things will also help you to think and be positive:
Reading Books and Novels
Listening to podcasts
Watching Motivational Videos
Having a helping attitude
As we all know, “We need to be the change we want to see in the world”. So if we want this world to be a good place, we need to the that good. And we can do so by having an attitude to think and be positive. Because some Yogis have said that, “Your thought process decides your future”.
Sorry or ego!
Nowadays, Sorry or Ego is a new trend of this generation. Most of us get confused about whether to say sorry or to show ego. Actually sorry and ego are the same, but sorry shows that you want to maintain a relationship whereas, the ego says you don’t. According to some philosophers, sorry and ego are in the same category of egoistic nature. Both are beautiful words.
To decide when to say sorry or show ego is one of the main issues of our generation. There are many psychological thoughts that we should consider before saying anything. When we were kids, we used to say sorry whenever we did something wrong. But now when we have become adults and especially are in the age group of 15-21years, we usually become more aggressive because of increased testosterone hormone levels. This increases our egoistic nature. There are many reasons like stress, not getting proper sleep, not having sex, family issue,s and overthinking which leads to an increase of ego in our nature.
Sometimes when you say sorry, you can maintain a relation, you can earn respect, and actually, you can get anything. You will not become disrespectful or your value will not become less in society just by saying sorry. Some people think that a person who does not say sorry can never be their friends or partner. But do you think that you can become a better version of your soul just by saying sorry? Is saying sorry everything? Are you giving 100% in your education or work? If not then how can you judge anyone by them saying sorry or not? Because saying sorry isn’t everything, but being is. A person who doesn’t say sorry but means it by heart definitely has a better soul.
We must understand that sorry is just a word but ego is a nature. If you got confused, understand sorry as a positive form of ego, and not being sorry even after making mistakes is a negative form of ego. According to the Bhagwad Geeta, we should forgive a person they understand their mistake and be sorry, but now if they make the same mistake again and again.
How to tackle and defeat depression
Nowadays, Depression is a new normal for youngsters. It is increasing day by day and spreading like a pandemic. In our family or society, we see people going through a phase of depression, but a mild one. And that’s why we don’t bother much about it. Most of us don’t know the exact meaning of depression. So, we can’t express to anyone or identify who is in depression. So, first of all, we should know the meaning and then how to tackle and defeat depression.
Depression can be classified as a mood disorder that changes according to time and event. It is characterized by feelings of sadness, loneliness, or anger. We should know that not every sadness or loneliness or feeling of anger is a depression, it may be due to some other issues. Depression is caused due to hormonal imbalances. Serotonin causes an imbalance in our body and when the Serotonin hormone level decreases then depression occurs. To avoid depression best way is to adopt spiritual life.
As human beings, we have the power to avoid this but sadly the majority of the population doesn’t know how to tackle and defeat depression, but there are many ways to do it. So, to tackle and defeat depression, we need to follow few things in our life that we even might have heard before.
- Healthy food
- Have a goal set in life
- Get proper sleep
- Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and Social media
- Have good friends
- Accept the failure
- Travel to new places
- Listen to good music
You must have heard that friendship is a mood elevator but actually, it’s not. It’s not like you shouldn’t have friends, having friends is just a way to surmount depression at a particular time or it may help you in tackling depression for few hours. But at the end of the day, you will feel lonely because of the thoughts and stress that you are going through. To avoid depression, you should try the things mentioned above. If you have good friends, you are less prone to depression but still, you are not totally free from it.
Social media is another major cause of depression. Avoiding social media is the best way to tackle depression. Again, I am not telling you to leave social media completely, but to use it wisely. Social Media helps you to know what’s going around on this planet. It helps you to connect with anyone in the world but excessive use is harmful, so you should use it on purpose.
Travelling is also one the most effective ways to avoid depression and listening to good music while travelling is a bonus.
But to avoid depression permanently you should learn to meditate and do regular exercise or yoga. Because a permanent solution is always better than a temporary one.
And at last. If you have ever failed in something, you should always try to accept your failure and try to learn something from it.
Mental Health: Overcome the fear of failure and be successful
Mental health issues are becoming a new topic of debate these days. Most people, after failing, think that their life is useless. but ‘fail’ and ‘failure’ are two completely different things. A person will be successful or not depends on their actions and mindset. Once or more in their lifetime, everyone fails, but you will be a failure only if you quit. All you have to do is overcome the fear of failure.
The mental issue is a stigma in our society, that should be changed and it’s our generation only which can change it. This stigma is the main reason behind the fear of failure. Now you must be thinking about why and how this is related. The thing is, in your life, you do whatever your family wants you to do or maybe you will do whatever your friends or relatives are doing who are in the best college and are scoring at the top. So you also want to achieve that due to peer and family pressure. Here the stigma of mental issues will come and you will not do what you want, and due to lack of confidence, you will try to hide whatever you wanted to do. You’ll start taking the stress and overthinking will haunt you. Which will lead to mental health issues like depression, OCD, and many more and eventually will lead you to fail.
Now, the main question is, – how to overcome the fear of failure? But you see, the answer to this question is hidden in the question itself. So, to overcome the fear of failure, you need to feel free and confident about whatever you want to achieve in life, you need to overcome the so-called thoughts of society, family members, peers. Mental health issues can only be resolved when you start focusing on yourself and your intuition. Acceptance of failure also plays a very important role here. You just need to understand that you can achieve anything with a positive mindset, observation, and acceptance of failure.
Another way to overcome the fear of failure is by controlling your brain, or we can say, controlling your sub-consciousness. To do so, you need to do meditation, yoga, and exercise along with a healthy diet. This will keep you both physically and mentally healthy. Routined life will also improve your confidence and capacity to overcome the fear of failure. There are certain food items like green vegetables, Fish(increases memory power), Berries, Green tea, and coffee(increases attention level) that will keep your mind healthy which will automatically change your mindset and give a boost to your confidence.
Apart from this, you should also be curious to try out new things and have the ability to learn new things because curiosity helps to improve mental health and skills.
So let go of the past and don’t worry about the future. Start living in the present and you will see the difference.